Finding your rhythm and feeling settled in a new city can be difficult! I moved from a small city where everyone knew each other and nothing ever really changed - to Auckland. Auckland is a bigger city with a lot more going on. My partner and I decided to move here where we knew no one instead of Wellington where we had friends. A completely new start! I've found a few ways to find my rhythm and now I love Auckland!
Unfortunately, your life isn't going to magically rebuild itself as soon as you arrive. There are going to be times where you feel lonely and overwhelmed. Times where you might feel like a failure or even a loser because all you do is work and stay at home. Therefore, it's really important to remember that settling in a new place takes time. Homesickness and loneliness will creep up on you often so keep in touch with people and try to get out of the house.
The excitement of being in a new place is a feeling like no other! It's also a great motivator, so grab that feeling and get exploring. Walk the streets and find the hidden corners. Discover a cool piece of street art and your new favourite cafe. Try to walk to as many places rather than jumping on public transport. Most cities will have a free walking tour or at least some cheap guided tours. This is a great way to meet people as well as explore. Embrace being a tourist before the novelty wears off and you become a resident.
Having a routine is a necessary evil and habits are thing we humans naturally fall into. In this case though, they will help you click into your new environment. Starting a new job or school will straight away give you a nice routine. Now add the little things; on my days off when the weather is nice i like to relax in Albert Park, visit Mission Bay or sit at the waterfront. My partner and I catch up with each other in Remedy Coffee for the cost atmosphere and delicious vegan cookie dough sandwiches. Every Friday I do my driving lesson and then treat myself to porridge or a sandwich from Greedy Guts. These things will being with them a sense of familiarity, satisfaction ad something to look forward to.
People need to be around other people, we are social creatures. Moving to a city where you don't know people is hard. So make the effort to go out and talk to as many people as you can. If you are a backpacker or are starting a new job - go to the planned socials. Have a hobby or an interest? - Then go to meetups or find a club. Volunteering is a great way to meet people as well as give to the community. Talk to the people around you. The majority of my friends are people I met because they made my coffee every morning or because the were my bartender. Just take as many opportunities as you can and push yourself out of your comfort zone - It will pay off I promise!
Home is where the heart is and you'll always carry a piece of home in your heart. So although it is important not to compare your new city to home, don't forget it. Keep in touch with friends and family, and remember the old city fondly. Bring old traditions with you, especially your relaxation and home routines. Not everything has to change and it's just as easy to do your hobbies and interest elsewhere. Soon your new city will be home and claim a piece of your heart.